Prayer to the ancestors:
May they always find their way back to each other.
May their arms be a shelter, their steps be steady.
May the earth remember their names.
May tenderness not be the exception but the rule.
May they kneel, stand, fall, love—
And be called whole by the ones who walked before them.
— Prayer by Nella Ngingo
"Boys don’t cry" is a photographic series about the kind of relationship rarely celebrated between men. It centers on two close friends, capturing the quiet way they move around each other, show up for each other, and create an unspoken shelter through their bond. Their connection feels like brotherhood, but sometimes it blurs into something softer, something that, in another world, might be called erotic.
This work explores the intersection of friendship, tenderness, and loyalty. It explores intimacy as a language, a shelter, and a way of being. The series engages with the politics of masculinity, queerness, and visibility. It challenges narrow definitions placed around male relationships, especially Black male relationships, offering an image of softness that is often erased or overlooked.
This project deepened my commitment to documenting intimacy. It affirmed that even the simplest gestures can carry immense emotional weight. Tenderness, when fully witnessed, is powerful, radically transformative, and, at times, an act of resistance.



